Lack of Confidence Can Hinder Your Job Search
If you are feeling defeated because you have done all you can do to prepare. You even had a few interviews but a job has not manifested for you, examine your internal dialogue.
Yes, put down the executive resume; halt the job searching, and join me in this deep-dive exercise to explore if the problem is you.
What are your beliefs about your candidacy? What “vibe” are you transmitting during your phone interview, exuding through your body language, projecting with your attire selection, and reinforcing via your marketing documents?
You see before you even begin to write your executive resume, cover letter, and LinkedIn — you must make sure that your marketing message doesn’t reflect your inner dialogue.
Others Can Sense Your Lack of Self-Assurance
Lack of confidence can be ‘smelled’ a mile away. Negativity, cynicism, and a ‘poor-me’ attitude is not attractive at all–no matter how you try to mask it.
Open the Floodgates of Interview Offers
While it may seem too simple and bordering on just “self-help” talk, the beliefs we hold about ourselves are fundamental in our success. The concept of reversing negative internal narrative not just during a job search but also in your everyday life, yes, seems simple. However, actually changing what you are thinking, feeling, and exuding is not—but it can absolutely be done (more on this later).
I guarantee that if you have lost the job offer, perhaps even during a second interview, the person who got hired sold their qualifications with more confidence, was more persuasive in promoting their value, and closed the deal (job) by assertively reassuring the employer that they were the best choice!
Possible Reasons for Your (sometimes) Hard-To-Detect Negative Self-Talk
The following could fuel consistent negative beliefs about your value, your opportunities, and your expectations:
1. Shame in losing your job. No need to be ashamed, it happens to everyone at least once. We cannot control what happens in the world and often we cannot control events in our lives. Nevertheless, we CAN control our reaction to what happens to us and we can DECIDE to take action.
2. Internalizing past failures. “Success builds character, failure reveals it” ~Dave Checkett. Enough said? Well, just in case: judging yourself for past failures builds a false self-image. Understanding that failure is part of trying and that while owning up to your failures nurtures intellectual and emotional growth–defining yourself by your failures, does not.
3. Desperation. Understandably, if you have been out of work for a very long time, creditors are calling you, and your funds are now very limited, you can easily find yourself in a desperate-feeling place.
Yet, I encourage you to adopt a new attitude. Employers need you. So, while you are out there distributing resumes and interviewing–interview them! Mmm hmm, that’s right. You interview them. Turning the tables around (tactfully) will position you in a ‘power’ place and not a ‘victim’ place. (After all, you are bringing this corporation into your life for more than 40 hours a week.)
4. Habit. This is probably the #1 reason we all do a little self-berating on a daily basis. Pretty much, we experience disappointment, become frustrated, angry, and sometimes need to justify what has occurred. Make a conscious choice to be kind to yourself, coach yourself, and pay attention to what you could be saying to yourself; because negative beliefs can make their way onto the visible aspects of your job search.
Begin Today to Change the Direction of Your Thoughts and Job Search
No matter what strategic job search plan or marketing pitch you have in place, if you cannot convince your prospective employer to hire you, your self-marketing tools are pointless. Know this: You cannot sell what you do not believe in and you cannot energize others to believe in you when YOU lack that type of enthusiasm in your own services. (Moreover, it feels good to recognize how good you really are.)
So, begin to take notice, write down all the reasons why you believe your job search is not fruitful, what your weaknesses are, why you think you are NOT the best candidate and then eradicate that thinking.
Replace it with positive self-talk and substantiate it with achievements. Ironically, exploring your negative dialogue and reversing it can lead you to your UVP (unique value proposition).
Check out our article on LinkedIn development for executives.
Rosa Elizabeth Vargas
Master Resume Writer
Quadruple-Certified Resume Writer